Discipline is the No.1 key to success, yet so many people lack the discipline needed to create the life they want. Did you know that #1 – you are not born with discipline and #2 – disciplined is a learned habit and you should build your discipline into your life every day.
#1 – You are not born with discipline
So the biggest challenge I face in life is MYSELF.
It comes down to me. My perspective, my values and my actions.
My actions are related directly to my discipline or lack thereof. Self discipline is what makes the difference between staying stuck where I am and getting to the next “what’s for me” in my life. Let me explain.
I’ve heard so many people say, “I’d be so much more disciplined if I had the job I love” or “I’ll go to gym when I have those nice new gym shoes”. Or, “It’s because I don’t have the job I love that I don’t have so much discipline” or “It’s because I don’t have nice new gym shoes that I don’t go to gym and don’t have so much discipline”. Heck, I’ve even said that in the past 🙁
Discipline doesn’t come from doing things that you want to do – discipline comes from doing the things that you don’t want to do whenever you don’t want to do it because you know that you should do it.
So if you’re really trying to build discipline, shouldn’t you be building discipline at this job that you hate? Or going to gym in those “not so nice” shoes anyway?
It makes zero sense to say that I will be more disciplined when I find a job that I love or when I have those nice new gym shoes.
The reason why is that discipline is a learned habit.
For years I have battled with finishing tasks at hand. And I’m not even referring to fun tasks like doing handcraft or performing other hobbies. I have battled with completing simple tasks like washing the dishes, drying and putting them back where they belong directly after using them, or cleaning the shower glass right after taking a shower, or simply returning things to the place that they belong directly after using them.
That’s why I say the biggest challenge I face in life is MYSELF.
There is discipline required for success. So much discipline. For me it’s the number one skill to master for success.
#2 – How to build your discipline every day
The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. So it starts with the small things.
When there is resistance, recognize it don’t fight the resistance. Do what the resistance is trying to stop you from doing. For example putting that glass down in the sink versus not washing it straight away because resistance is telling me to just leave it for later or for someone else to deal with it.
Instead of leaving the clothes on the bed, pick them up and pack them away – just do it. If you have discipline in the small things that’ll take like a minute or less then you’ll have discipline in the big things.
The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. Fight the resistance by doing what the resistance doesn’t want you to do.
I’ll never be perfect, but if I feel the resistance, I’m fighting it by taking action.
We train ourselves to give up. The same way we can train ourselves to be disciplined, and do the things that we need to do.
You may think that success is this massive big event. No it’s not. Success is the tedious, tiny little things that you do every single day over and over and over again and the success just stacks on top of itself. Its not some big event. It’s a bunch of tiny little disciplines.
Ask yourself, where am I not showing up or following through in my life? Where am not showing up where I need to show up more or follow through where I need to follow through?
Where do I need to push myself more?
Where do I need to show up and show that discipline and do something more versus doing less?
Where do I feel resistance where I need to tackle it and push passed it and stop holding myself back from everything?
Because discipline is not found in the job that you love or the having best gym shoes to wear to gym. Discipline is found by showing up and doing tiny little things every single day regardless of how you feel about it.
Discipline is doing that 30 minute-yoga-fat-burn for beginners session even when I really don’t want to or feel like it.
Discipline is doing it when you hate doing it. What do you hate doing?
Discipline is a learned habit. Find the resistance, don’t listen to that little voice of resistance, push passed it.
It’s the small things in life that we need to overcome that bring about change and success in our lives.